I’ve tried to develop a little routine for myself – things to purposely do in the morning that I know will make me feel calm and together, before I start my day. When I feel like my own needs and wants are attended to, I feel more likely to be productive and efficient in knocking things off the to do list. I feel more motivated and ready to give to the demands of the people and energies around me.
There a few things I know for sure, based on my own experience with the relationships in my life. It is these things that I’m going to share with you; perhaps there are a few you may want to look at and incorporate into your relationship life, too. Try it. Or don’t. It’s all good in the hood.I will tell you this, though… I experienced a beautiful blossoming effect once I started consciously making and working at these choices.
Listen, I totally know we didn’t need a countdown at midnight to create a fresh new start, or to leave the heavy yucky things behind. I totally get that. My tribe, myself, YOU… we are all capable, badass, love warriors who can start over the second we decide to. We don’t need a man-made new year to do it.
But hear me out…
For whatever reason putting my goals and dreams neatly on a clean paper, in my new clean day planner, using different colored pens, marking with stars and hearts, makes it official.
Is this enough? Am I playing too small? Are these goals all truly mine? Can I do more?
Ten random things I discovered that I did in 2017 that totally changed how my year unfolded. And how I know 2018 will unfold, as well.
End 2017 strong. Make your choice now to leave the crazy frantic energy of December behind and move forward into your new year powerfully and purposefully.
How did healing happen? I think I saw and had these tiny moment of freedom… tiny moments of not hurting…
Let me share, that the word GOD isn’t one I’ve been particularly comfortable with. Like, at ALL. But I’ve been seeking, as I do. And recently, I’ve been interchanging my go to word the UNIVERSE, with the word GOD. But I haven’t spoken much of that word… just played with it here and there. Never really committing to it.
But this moment… the voice in my head or in my heart… “Can I find God in this?”
Feel good thank you moments…
“This is precisely the time when artists go to work. There is no time for despair, no place for self pity, no need for silence, no room for fear. We speak, we write, we do language. That is how civilizations heal.” ~ Toni Morrison
It’s only when I actually slow myself down from being sucked back into the past, into the hurt and into that fear based way of living, that I can pause long enough and realize I don’t have to hurt AS that old girl. I don’t have to GO back to those experiences. I can find the lesson and leave the experience….
What is Mother Earth trying to tell us on a rainy day?
How do I find inspiration for something to write about? It’s few and far between some days… here are my go tos.
…the thing about healing, is that there is no recipe or step-by-step instructions to begin, in order to get to the other side. You just sort of have to move through it. The thick and shittiness of it all… Here are some of my lessons, Maybe you can relate.
Do you ever feel like you just don’t have enough time on the weekends? I mean, Friday hits and, YES, it’s here! But then you blink and it’s Sunday night and you think, where did the time go? What did I do with my life the last two days?
I’ve realized that with any struggles in life, we have to do the shitty work. We have to. There is no easy work. There are no easy buttons to our lives. To really get what we want, totally and completely, we have to do the shitty work.
Don’t sit and wait. Go do.
There are some really terrible people out there. But, the cool thing is that there are even more super duper people out there… Just take a look around…
Beautiful people are my favourite. They inspire me. I try to be one and I do my best to associate with the likes of them.
So, what does it take to be seen as beautiful? It’s pretty simple if you ask me…
I think most of us want growth and expansion in our lives. And when we decide that, it is almost like the Universe begins to conspire on our behalf… adding players and scenes into our days that will aid in our growth and expansion. Our little worlds suddenly become bigger, deeper, richer. And sometimes, more complicated. It’s funny. I beleive when you make the decision that you “want more” out of life, life will give you more. And there is really no way to turn back.
That’s the thing about what ifs…
The things we struggle with are most often the place where our biggest lessons lie dormant, waiting to be breathed to life… what are you struggling with?
Some how, those days, that pain, scarred over. The mark has been made, but the initial rage of the pain has subsided.
Somewhere in there, she met you.
Here are five ideas to help you strengthen your ability to be aware of what’s going on around you, and therefore react appropriately and choose your perspective in a way that serves a better version of you, and your life…
You are not alone. I see you. I feel you.