Ahhh yes… a post on how to live a kick ass totally awesome life. A sexylicious life, if I do say so myself. Since I love reading these kind of posts, I thought, HECK! I might as well write a piece on it myself. I’m pretty rockstar like that.
Actually, the truth is, as I was brainstorming for this, I thought to myself, “do I really have enough life wisdom to share? Have I walked this talk? Will what I say feel powerful enough to affect someone?”
See? I’m not as cool or as confident as I sometimes make myself out to be.
BUT then I decided, f*ck it! I have lots of good stuff to share and I’ve lived every single one of these points. And maybe a large group of people won’t be touched by this, but there is still a chance that one person will be. And that’s good enough for me.
So here it is… my thoughts or tips on living life that is kick ass and full. Enjoy. 🙂
This is something I really truly believe and live. Holding onto pain and grudges does nothing but keep you stuck. As I’ve said in the past, forgivness is for YOU, not for the person who hurt you. Forgiving frees you to move on. And moving on means living your life. Be brave, forgive and giddy up forward into the sexy fresh life that awaits you.
Find what you are grateful for
Every morning I write out 3 things I am grateful for. It makes me appreciate what I have and what I have over come. In other words, it makes me feel awesome. 🙂 And that is a great way to get my mind working in the right direction. With a positive happy mind, life is more enjoyable. Besides, being happy rocks. So find what you are grateful for and smile away.
Find what you are proud of
Just like I mentioned above, this is something I do every morning and it really gets me in the right frame of mind. I try to make my “proud ofs” about other people, instead of me. Why? Because it gets me thinking about all the kick ass things that the people in my life are doing. And that makes me appreciate who I surround myself with and reinforces that there IS a lot of good in the world. You just have to choose to see it.
Learn about the power of your thoughts
Once I figured this out, my whole world changed. “Thoughts become things.” It’s true, they do. Mike Dooley is a great author who explains how this “works.” I’m not saying if you think of a purple elephant you will turn into a purple elephant. That is silly. But what I am saying is that visualizing is proven. Thinking positively can change the outcome, even if the only change in the outcome is your perspective. Any high level successful athlete will tell you visualizing is a key to success. But why should athletes be the only ones to benefit from it? It’s your thoughts… make sure you are choosing good ones. Get the most out of what you have control over.
Appreciate your friends
We have a tendency to treat friends like family, once we are super close and bonded. We assume that they will always be there because they always have been. But I will tell you from my own personal, fresh experience that the pain of losing a friend is hell. It is not something I would wish on anyone. Appreciate the friends in your life, because you never know when you will be with out them.
Practice random acts of kindness
Doing things for other people leaves you with a super rad feeling. And doing these things when they aren’t expected is even more awesome. People love to be made to feel like they matter. Right? We all do. Do yourself and the planet a sexylicious favor and give out some friendly love, sincere attention or thoughtful actions. You may change someone’s whole day, or maybe their whole world. Either way, it’s worth it.
Balance work with play
Too much of one and not the other will make you sick (literally), regretful and lonely. Find a way to fit both into your life so that you are getting the best out of everyday, every week, every month, every year. When you are old and grey and on your death bed, you can look back and know that you lived your life fully and completely. Unwasted in every area.
Slow down and smell the roses
This is simple… don’t be in such a hurry that you miss the little things, which are actually the big things in life. Slow it down. Take a breath and take it all in. There is so much beauty going on around you… more than you even realize.
Accept the past and move on
You need to stop reliving the past. Whatever happened to you, whoever hurt you, does not need to have power over you anymore. Stop living that part of your life and let it go. Yes, it changed you. Yes, it was painful. But it’s not your present. The only reason you should be telling stories of your past is if they are stories of triumph or to share how far you have come. Don’t let it keep you as the victim. The past cannot be changed, forgotten, or erased. It can only be accepted.
Stop counting down for the next big event
This is one that I have started to live more consistently. The last couple years though, I’ll tell ya… I was always counting down and waiting for what was “next.” But then I started to realize… right now, this day, is what matters. It’s totally cool to be excited fo the next big milestone or event in your life. Just don’t rush to it. It will come. The gift is in the getting there, not just the arrival.
Sending love, hugs and buttslaps,