Recently, I have picked up the new book, “Life Loves You” written by authors Louise Hay and Robert Holden. Louise happens to be one of my all time favorite authors. It was her book, “You Can Heal Your Life” that began my journey of self-discovery and awareness, a deeper healing and connection with myself, and as a result of that, a deeper and better connection with others. You Can Heal Your Life literally changed my life. I am pretty sure that the first year I read it, that I gave at least 5 or 6 copies of it away as gifts. I wanted my close friends and family members to experience the break through that I did.
So, fast-forward about 9 years later. I now hold Life Loves You in my hands, and I know just by reading chapter one, that it will be another life changing book.
I decided against buying a bunch of copies for friends and family (just yet), and instead decided I would share my love and admiration for this book on my blog, as I make my way through the chapters, assignments and ideas.
Chapter one talks about the importance of mirror work.
Mirror work. Yes. I know. Not a concept I was super familiar with, either. The idea is that you look in the mirror, right into your own eyes and affirm to yourself nice things. The affirmation that Louise and Robert suggest starting with is “I am lovable.”
Take it from me, it can be hard to look into our own eyes. It can be hard to hear the sound of our own voice talking. It can be hard to not stare and judge and pick out all the things you don’t like about yourself. If you experienced any of that, you are not alone.
The first time I did this, I judged myself a lot. I remember thinking, my voice sounds so funny. My eyes look sorta crossed eyed. WTF. I wish I had better shaped eyebrows. Is that a pimple? And so on, and so on.
We are kind of mean to ourselves, eh?
In fact, I am willing to bet we are nicer to friends and strangers, than we are to ourselves sometimes. Ahem… most times.
Looking, not glancing, at yourself is going to take some getting use to. Hearing yourself speak such kind, loving words to yourself may make you uncomfortable. Carving out some time from your day to stand in front of the mirror and talk to yourself may sound silly. But it is a practice that will do nothing but improve your quality of life.
Why shouldn’t we look at ourselves with love and compassion? Our body does so much for us, every second of every day. Why shouldn’t we hear loving words spoken out loud to us? We want a lover or family member to say it, but we can’t accept when it comes from ourselves? And why shouldn’t we carve out time in our day to say an affirmation, such as “I am loveable” ten times in the mirror. Are we not worth those few moments of connecting with ourselves?
I’m not 100% there yet with this exercise. It feels silly sometimes. I want to fix parts of me when I look at me. There is a long process of letting go and accepting, as we practice mirror work. But I think it’s worth it. This relationship with myself is one I will have for the rest of my life. Longer than lovers will stay or family members and friends will be around. It makes sense to strengthen that relationship and love it deeply.
If you are interested more in mirror work, Louise is pretty much the pioneer behind it. Research her and you will find more information on the benefits and practices of mirror work.
I will leave you with an idea that the book ended chapter one with. It says, “L
I hope you give mirror work a try. Let me know in the comments below, if you are comfortable sharing your experience. In the meantime, I am sending you love, hugs and butt slaps.