In a few days, 2016 will be upon us. There is a lot of excitement and liveliness that surrounds the “new year, new me” energy wave people got going on. We’re all fired up to make change and add good things to our lives.
And there’s nothing wrong with that! I say all the power to ya if you wanna start fresh and set new goals, to become a bigger and better you.
While I do think its important to think about all the things we want to add to our lives – work out 4 times a week, eat healthier, see our families more, read more books, volunteer, recycle – there are also some ideas we need to ditch as we go forward, too. Lighten our load a little, you know? With all that we want to take on, there must be some things we can let go of in the process.
“Okay, wait... McDooogs, do you mean cleaning out my closets and sending clothes to the second hand store? That kind of letting go?”
Well, sure. That works, too. But what else could we let go of, as we end 2015 and begin a new year and a fresh start?
- Let go of trying to change the people in your life.
You can’t change people. As much you and I would probably both love to change some people to be more what we think they need, it’s just not doable. You just can’t change people.
You can only love them.
Right here, right now, as they are.
If you have spent energy in the past trying to change the folks you love – no matter how gentle or subtle you were – you need to let go of this idea and start 2016 with out the habit of trying to make people be someone different than who they are.
It might feel uncomfortable and a bit like a struggle to do this. I mean, honestly, how many of us can just let people be just the way they are, no matter how wrong we think that is or how much we think they need our help?
Yikes. Not many of us. But we can do this… YOU can do this. Let go of the power struggle to change them, and your year will be more peaceful because of it.
- Let go of the idea that you always have to be in control of every situation
Sometimes, we just need to say, “Fuck it. I don’t know how this will turn out. I don’t know how to fix or control this. I’m just going to let go and let what will be, be.”
That’s hard. Like, really flipping hard.
Especially if you are a planning, control freak nut-case, like some of us. But there is a weight that will lift from you, and a sense of freedom that will build in you, when you let what you can’t control just simply be out of your control.
Whatever you are struggling to control, right there, that is your lesson… whatever you cant control is teaching you how to let go.
Take the lesson.
- Let go of what you didn’t do or become… AKA: regrets
Maybe you failed at something this year. Maybe you got lazy and quit. Maybe you weren’t lazy, but you found it was hard and you quit. Maybe there were some things you didn’t do at all and you have regrets in regards to that void.
Let. It. Go.
Holding on to those over-and-done-with-stories does nothing to benefit you in the now. It only ties to you to something that is not. Learn from your past mistakes and then leave them there, in the past. Where they belong.
Carrying something like regrets into the future just weighs you down emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and physically.
The new year will have enough new challenges… do you really need to bring past challenges with you, too? Say peace to those, and move forward with your arms free of carrying the past, and ready to receive new blessings and lessons.
- Let go of all that you want.
Yes, it’s important to declare and know what you want out of 2016. But it’s also important that you let go of that once you figure it out.
If we have a strict image of how things will come into fruitation, we often ignore or don’t pay attention to different paths that show up for us… ones that may very well lead to the same place that we want, or hell, even a better place.
But we ignore those signs or those paths because we are tied to the outcome, of how WE think it should unfold.
“That path doesnt look like the one that will lead me to my goal, so I’m not taking it.”
Just because it doesnt look like the path you would expect, does that mean it’s automatically wrong? We know what we want out of life, but do we get to be in control as to HOW it happens for us?
Instead, just declare what you want, keep the end result in mind, and let go of how that comes to be.
- Let go of comparison
Do you ever get caught up with comparing your life to the lives you follow on social media? I know I am guilty of this.
Whether these lives are people I know, or just celebs and role models I admire, it’s hard to not look at what I see about their lives and compare it to my own.
We need to remember this: social media, like Facebook and Instagram, that’s someone else’s highlight reel. Don’t compare your everyday life to that! It’s not realistic. And a lot of the time, the stories we tell ourselves about their fabulous life, well these stories aren’t even true. We end up being jealous of something that likely doesn’t exist the way we imagine it to.
Don’t waste your energy or emotions comparing yourself to others.
You don’t need to be better than anyone; you just need to be better than the person you once were.
Your tomorrow is for you. Plan to add all that you can to it to make it amazing, but don’t be afraid to release some things, too. The more you let go of, the more there will be room for.
You’ve got this super fox… 2016, here we come.
Sending love, hugs and butt slaps